The beginning of a new year is always a great point in life to stop and reset, to end something old and to start something new. I’ve never been one to write out a long list of resolutions for the start of a new year, but I do like to pick one or two major efforts to work on in the new year. I know of a lot of people make health related resolutions, like loosing weight or starting a new exercise program. For all of you reading this who are not yet out and who are surviving by telling lies or leading two separate lives, I challenge you to make only one resolution this year – start living a truly authentic life. Even if you are not ready to “come out” to the entire world on January 1, promise yourself that you will no longer procreat more lies to create the perception of living a type of life that satisfies the needs of others. Whether its your family, friends, or work place, promise yourself that you will no longer lie about who you are dating or who you are as a person.
I can tell from personal experience that living a double-life and constantly telling lies about your life is totally stressful, both mentally and physically. The worry about someone finding out the truth about what you are hiding takes years off of your life and for what? Making a resolution this year to start living an authentic life in 2012 will not only be something that will improve your mental health, but it will have a positive effect on your physical health as well. Lowering the stress in your life will help you smile more, eat and drink less, sleep better, and help you to feel better about yourself overall. Anyone who has come out will tell you the same thing.
Afraid? Fear not, for there are thousands of “out” LGBT law enforcement professionals out there who are ready to embrace and support you. All you need to do is to reach out and tell us who you are. You can use the link at the top of this page to get immediate support from us. You can also click on the link for law enforcement organizations and connect with an association or group located near you. I guarantee you will find acceptance, understanding, and total support.
If you decide to make this your resolution for 2012, tell us about it. Let us be the first to congratulate you and to wish you a very happy and authentic new year.